Right, and Wrong

2 friends (A & B) went traveling and a common friend of theirs (C) who resides in the country they were touring, offered to give them a dinner treat.

A and B arranged to meet C (the host) at the restaurant at a certain time but them being unfamiliar with the area, arrived more than an hour late. It was after 8pm by then.

C's family started dinner without them because their daughter was hungry. Daughter is in her early teens.

A was very offended the host started dinner first and showed it. But the host who waited for more than an hour did not complain. A was so upset that when C apologized for starting dinner first, giving the reason for doing so and asked the visitors to order what they want, A didn't want to eat anymore, and was visibly displeased.

A insisted C was rude to have gone ahead with dinner, that she should have waited because she was the host and hosts wait for guests. In her words, C did not teach her daughter right. She thought C's daughter was old enough to curb her hunger till the guests arrived, regardless of how late that may be. It's manners, in C's opinion (I wonder if being late is considered good manners then?)

I took it that A was just ranting to release the frustration but she's starting to use that as an example of a badly brought up child of a mum who's inconsiderate.

I'm neither A, B, nor C. I'm just wondering why some people find ZERO fault with themselves, even though no one's pointing fingers except herself, and even though it's quite plain for all to see who's the root cause of her own frustration.

Hmm...what's my point in writing this? Just another case of some unreasonable expectation that gets on my nerve and it's interesting to note there ARE people who expect perfection from others but little from themselves.