Baby girl has gone for her GB camp. I got to send her off last year but coz the happy pill is running a fever and the daddy is on a full day shift today (he needed the car coz he will not be back till 4am tomorrow), I couldn't do so.
After packing last night, baby girl asked if I would miss her. I thought I wouldn't but I am missing her now. She forsee that I will miss her, and wrote this note for us.
"Read this whenever you miss me ok?"
She's always been a very sweet girl. She's growing up with a mind of her own, more resistant to instructions now but still sweet as ever. She gets into trouble with me a lot coz to be frank, my expectation of her is higher. We, as adults, are entitled to preferences and we too, get upset when things do not go our way. Her too. But for some reasons, when she shows her displeasure, she gets into trouble for it. Not only with me as her mum, but with a couple of others who make passing comments that she is difficult. There was a time these 'feedback' affected me but other than managing my own expectation of her, I no longer care about comments by people who do not know MY daughter like I do.
My daughter, despite constant arguments with my boy (oversensitive as someone puts it), fusses over him whenever he is sick. She sets up a rest area for him, complete with blanket, pillow and bolster on the sofa, turns on his favorite cartoon program and waits on him whenever he whines for anything. She teaches him, everything! She's a totally awesome teacher! I've missed out on updating about the thousands of topics she had taught him since he was really little, and uninterested (he's still not a keen learner at this age). For this year, she took on my responsibility and revised his chinese words with him because she was with me at his meet-the-parents session and knew exactly what help he needed.
Without ever me asking, she would always whip out the whiteboard to teach him, anything from Chinese, to maths, to even drawing.
This is my girl. Not the uncooperative, sensitive and difficult girl some people whisper about her.
Mums, do not ever let others comments affect our relationship with our kids. And mums, cut each other some slack and stop judging. I'm sure none of our kids are perfect, so watch the behavior of our own kids instead of observing others' and criticizing them.