A Reason to Be Kind

I don't need a reason to be kind, not unless I need to convince myself to rise up beyond my dislike for someone.

Wont you agree that it's always easier to be kind to those who have been kind to you?

When I suggested passing what we will not need in 3 weeks time to them who have shown us much kindness (that's what has been translated to me, unless it isn't what I've been told), I was looked in the eyes and questioned: "Why do you have to be so nice??"

I don't have to be. If you have other plans, go ahead and implement them. I just thought if the remaining quarter of what's unused will be going to waste, why not share?

I don't see why my kind intentions should be questioned.

Like my MIL stays at us now. Do I need a reason to be kind like I am to her? I assured her that she can stay for as long as she wants. She said she will look for another place (because she has a home that she wants to continue renting out, for money. She wants to still be able to afford to travel long haul and satisfy her material wants, NOT BECAUSE SHE'S HOMELESS, unlike other poor elderly who have no homes.)

So, while I offered her a place under our roof for as long as she likes, she replied she wants her own place and will shift out someday.

I rose above myself and showed kindness. I could have shut up and made her feel unnecessary and unwelcome. I'd frankly love to and trust me, I am trained to be unkind whenever necessary now. Like her, I don't have to be nice when I don't like to. Told you she's bad influence, didn't I?

Now, she's subtly asking for a cabinets at our new place to store her stuff. That I understand, because her stuff are all in luggages. But is there a reason why I should be kind?

She will get that big wardrobe in our originally planned study/play room. Now that will become HER room and  there goes my original plan of separating AN and ER's clothes for neater storage. It's something I've been looking forward to but have no space for currently.

Because of her, I have to change my plans and still NOT have enough storage. Tell me, why should I be that kind then? To always be accommodating her?

She questioned us when we asked her to help us bring a tiny piece of clothing for Mr Liow's cousin's toddler when we were in Tucson. She questioned us, like how I was questioned this time: "Why do you have to be so nice?" And then she refused to help us bring it back.

If you guys remembered, she bought so many things for  HERSELF that she couldn't bring them with her either.

MY PARENTS HAD TO BRING HER STUFF BACK FOR HER. AND I REMEMBERED BECAUSE I AM PISSED.

Tell me why then, do my parents have to be so kind?

If we need a reason to be kind, my parents wouldn't agree to bring her stuff back for her when SHE thought it was ridiculous of us to have gotten a flat piece of outfit for the toddler and waste her luggage space.

Why should my parents be kind???

I am kind because I have been shown kindness. The world has enough selfish people. We met enough selfish people and hate encounters with such people. Why then, can't we make a difference?

I wasn't even suggesting going above and beyond our convenience, to share what we have with these people who had been kind to us. I was just suggesting we do not waste what's left over.

Or if we can do something else, let's do it another way.

The last thing I need is to be questioned for being kind. In fact, I don't need that.

If I have to give a reason for every act of kindness I show, I'll hack it and firmly insist that I will NOT accommodate her and that she leave before we shift. I don't need a reason to inconvenience myself for her.
There's no reason to.