Sunday, March 20, 2011

How Should I React? (warning: contains negativity, sacarstism)

MIL was back from her holidays and Mr Liow went to fetch her.

Since we would be at the airport, dinner there will be nice (we always enjoyed relaxing at the airport). She sms-ed him that her flight would touch down at Terminal 2, so we had dinner there.

I can't stand people who had been parents themselves or even grandparents now, who expect parents with young kids or babies to be responsive IMMEDIATELY. DID SHE EXPECTED US TO STANDBY OUR PHONES?

I was feeding AN, Mr Liow attending to ER. She called and couldn't get us. Mr Liow asked me to return her call and I regretted it after obeying him. Coz when she answered it, her first reaction was: "I CALLED ALL OF YOU AND NONE OF YOU PICKED UP YOUR CALLS! WHAT ARE YOU HOLDING MOBILE PHONES FOR!?"

Yes, she shouted at me over the phone. ^&*#(@!%$*(!@(&#%)&!$(@&%&!(#^

Come on! There were times she missed our calls but we understood that she was probably busy! Will her Genting shares nose-dive if she waits a little before calling again?? But no, she will NOT understand that we may have been busy with the kids when she calls. She the Empress, you know?

What sickening attitude. She is a grandma already but behaves so ill-bred.

So, we finally realised she touched down at Terminal 3 instead. But she wanted to get liquor from duty-free, so we did not have to take flight or speed there. She'll be shopping before waiting to collect her luggage.

This reminded me of once-upon-a-time again:
Mr Liow offered to fetch my parents from airport. They had returned from Australia after attending Andy's graduation. We were at my SIL's hm and when it was time to go, she said: "Go so early for what? They still need to get their luggages and do some shopping." For her info and unlike her, my parents will not shop because they will not want us to wait. And my parents will be so grateful whenever Mr Liow goes pick them. The last thing they will do is get upset if we appear later than they expect."

MIL went on to suggest: "You go later la! Then wait for them outside (at the pickup point). Ask them to come out so you do not need to park."

It sounded logical although the way she put is was super offending. She likes to speak with a "don't you guys use your brains?" tone during times like these when we prefers to do things the 'illogical' way, like going to the airport for lunch before picking my parents up at the same time. And yes, Mr Liow didn't use his brains again this time, for agreeing to go pick the ungrateful mum up. He's filial and she really ought to be thankful coz she really doesn't deserve Mr Liow. I'd be richer than the world's richest if ER is as forbearing as Mr Liow should I become so badly behaved when I grow old.

That was what we did with my parents and you can imagine how grateful they were. I mean, who wouldn't? You would if someone comes pick you up at the airport and drives you home, wouldn't you??

But once again, no.

Mr Liow suggested MIL wait for us at the arrival pickup point (I suggested that, because SHE suggested that to us the last time and it made sense). She went on to ask why we were not parking the car, blah blah blah, and Mr Liow explained. Did he need to? Haven't she already had it all thought out for my parents the last time?

So, she did. Mr Liow told her to just go all the way outside of the arrival hall and there the pickup point should be. That's how Terminal 1 and 2 works, isn't it?

She followed his instructions and waited at the taxi stand -______-"

We made 3 rounds but found no taxi stand, and when we finally did, we realised it was a "No-Entry" zone for vehicles other than cabs and coaches.

Mr Liow called her again to ask her to take the lift down a level where the pickup point at Terminal 3 is.

She blamed Mr Liow for telling her to go "all the way outside". The thing is, if she used her brains like she enjoys telling people to, she would have noticed that ONLY TAXIS APPEARED, NO CARS! Oh, she also should start using her eyes, besides her brains. How on earth should we know that Terminal 3 is different from 1 and 2 till we get there for the first time??????

She finally appeared, grouchy that "we made her wait". The first thing she said when she opened the car door was not "I missed you" to the kids, or "Thanks for picking me up", or anything nice, grateful or at least, sensible. She actually complained: "You guys took so long! Do you know how angry I was after waiting for so long??" And it was after 15mins of circling around to look for her.

In fact, over the phone when Mr Liow asked her for her exact location, she was already taking it out on him for making her wait. Ingrate.

Once she got on the car, she called Mr Liow's sis and shouted at her for not picking up her call. Same comment she made: "USE A MOBILE PHONE FOR WHAT?? YOU DON'T PICK UP CALLS!"

*roll eyes*

She then shouted at his sister for giving her wrong information that her flight would touch down at Terminal 2. I din know what his sister said over at the other end but it shut her up. Makes me wonder if she was the one who looked wrongly instead!! But when the empress makes a mistake, so it's ok.

The whole 5-10 mins conversation was a torture. Me and the kids were stuck in the car, listening to her shout at Mr Liow's sis. I wish I could take the kids out so they need not learn how to speak nasty words.

Really, someday, AN will learn to be rude and unreasonable. Just some day, ER too. With her teaching them to, by example.

You know, dear mum of my hubby, you really should be saying "thank you" to my hubby for picking you up. Just simply for picking you up. He needed not to, since we have already expected you to not know how to behave properly. But you, as a mother yourself, as a grandma, in the presence of young children, do not know how to behave!

That day you left your mobilephone in our house after he sent you to the MRT station (and to think he stupidly offered to send you ALL the way to SIL's home at Cambridge) and he had to come home before realising that he had to go back to deliver your phone to you, you should have said "thank you" to him too!

The process went like this:
1. You called me to tell me that you left your phone at my place.
2. Mr Liow was uncontactable because he did not bring his phone with him when he left with her.
3. He drove home, parked his car at level 3, walked down, walked a distance to our block, took a lift up and I told him: "Your mum forgot her phone. She said she will be waiting for you where you dropped her, to bring the phone to her."
4. I took the kids and went with him (just to take the kids for a ride). No, I did not do makeup or rummage through their wardrobe to dress them up to the nines. It was just a ride.
5. We walked the same distance back to the carpark but waited at level 1 while Mr Liow went back up 3 levels to get his car.
6. He drove to where he left her.
7. SHE LOOKED VERY VERY ANGRY, SCOLDED HIM FOR TAKING SO LONG TO BRING HER PHONE BACK, AND SLAMMED THE DOOR AT HIM WITHOUT A WORD OF THANKS.

Mr Liow couldn't take it and called her on her mobile to reason with her. He had to get home before he knew her phone was at our place. she knew he did not have his phone with him too, because she called it and I answered it from HOMe (did she use her brains? Or did she only expect others to be using theirs??). Even if he did bring his phone, he would have to come home to get her phone before driving it back to her.

It was a mere 15-20 mins wait, not SO LONG like she complained. Did she expect Mr Liow to fly her phone to her in an apache parked right outside our HDB flat?? Did she not realise that it was quite a walk from the carpark to our home and back? She obviously wouldn't have thought that Mr Liow had to park his car at level 3.

Where do I begin looking for positive feelings towards her? Each time we spend time with her, it's purely keeping silent and putting up with her nonsense.

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